Every time you're about to open your mouth, stop and think about what you're planning to say. Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it loving?
I am certainly guilty of careless talk (though, as of lately, I've tried very hard to be more aware of it). It's all too easy to find yourself in a rut. Before you know it, one particular issue consumes you, and you can't even have a conversation without talking about it. Chances are, the issue is a source of pain for you. Try to be honest with yourself about WHY you're having those feelings...do what you need to do to resolve it (this may involve a huge ounce of forgiveness on your part, or it could involve a much needed heart-to-heart, or you just might need old-fashioned prayer)...and then vow to not talk about it again.
You may even have a friend who is constantly "whining" and you end up avoiding conversations with that person. Try something new: instead of avoiding them, find something positive to bring to the conversation...doing so makes it difficult for them to continue talking about something dreary. Do this every time. (It may take several attempts before they realize that you aren't going to participate in their negativity.) You will be a better friend for it.
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29
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